EXCELLENT ARTICLE!!!! Couldn’t agree more!
Is America Still Making Men?
By Dennis Prager
Every society has to answer a few basic questions in order to succeed and even in order to survive. One of them is, “How do we make good men?”
The reason for the importance of this question is simple: Males untutored about how to control their natures will likely do much harm. Conversely, males who are taught to how to control themselves and to channel their drives in positive directions make the world a much better place. The good man is a glory of civilization; the bad man ruins it.
Throughout American history, American society asked, “How do we make men?” (It was understood that “man” meant a good man.) Anyone who thought about the subject knew that boys who are not transformed into men remain boys. And when too many boys do not grow up into men, women suffer and society suffers.
What is a man (as opposed to a boy)? The traditional understanding was that a man is he who takes responsibility for others — for his family, his community and his country — and, of course, for himself. A man stood for ideals and values higher than himself. He conducted himself with dignity. And he was strong.
For much of American history, making boys into men was understood to be of supreme importance, and society was usually successful. When I was a boy in the 1950s, without anyone expressly defining it, I knew what a man was supposed to be. And I knew that society, not to mention my parents, expected me to be one. It went without explicitly saying so that I would have to make a living, support myself as soon as possible and support a family thereafter.
When I acted immaturely, I was told to be or act like a man. I wonder how many boys are told to “be a man” today; and if they were, would they have a clue as to what that meant? It would appear that for millions of American boys, this has not been the reality for decades. Many families and society as a whole seem to have forgotten boys need to be made into men.
There are numerous reasons:
1. The distinction between men and boys has been largely obliterated. The older males that many American boys encounter are essentially older boys, not men. They speak, dress, and act similarly (think of men who “high-five” young boys instead of shaking their hands). And they are almost all called by their first names. Even when a boy (or girl) addresses an adult male as “Mr.,” many men will correct the young boy or girl — “Call me” and then give the young person his first name. This is often true even with regard to teachers, physicians and members of the clergy. When a young person calls an adult by his first name, the status of the two individuals has been essentially equated. Boys need men to respect. It’s not impossible to do so when they call men by their first names, but it makes it much harder.
2. Boys today have fewer adult men in their lives than ever before. Many boys are not raised by any father. More are not raised by a father who lives in the home full time. Nearly every teacher and principal American boys have in elementary and high school is a female. The boy’s clergy person and physician may well be women. And few male figures in contemporary film radiate manhood as defined above.
3. The ideals of masculinity and femininity have been largely rendered extinct. Feminism, arguably the most influential American movement of the 20th century, declared war on the concepts of femininity and masculinity. And for much of the population, it was victorious. Indeed, thanks to the feminist teaching that male and female human beings are essentially the same (note, incidentally, that no one argues that male and female animals are the same, only human beings are), untold numbers of boys have been raised as if they were like girls. They were denied masculine toys such as play guns and toy soldiers, and their male forms of play — e.g., roughhousing — were banned.
4. America has become a rights-centered rather than a responsibility-centered society. Aside from helping to produce a pandemic of narcissism, the rights-centered mindset is the opposite of the obligation/responsibility-centered mindset that makes a boy into a man. It is not good for either sex to be rights-preoccupied; but it is particularly devastating to developing men, as men are supposed to be obligation-directed. The baby boomer generation helped destroy manhood in most of the ways described here. One additional example was its widespread slogan, “Make love, not war.” One cannot come up with a more unmanly piece of advice: “Don’t fight for your country, screw girls.” If the greatest generation had adopted that motto, Hitler and Tojo would have won. A few years ago, the city of Chicago named a street after Hugh Hefner, a man who has played games much of the day and night, lived in pajamas and devoted his life to sex — quite a model of manhood for American boys.
5. There are few places where men can bond with other men. One major way men become men is by associating with other good men. The only places left where this normally takes place are sports teams and the military. The same holds true for boys. And much of society is now working on breaking the most significant all-boys institution, the Boy Scouts.
6. Males no longer have distinctive roles. Men do best when they are relied upon, when needed; and they feel most needed when they do something distinct from women. This exists today in sports and the military. It is symbolic — significantly so — that there are no more “men at work” signs on highways. Now “people” are at work. “Men” have disappeared.
7. Many churches and synagogues have been feminized. This has occurred in at least three important ways: Clergy are increasingly female (and touchy-feely males) — for the first time in Christian and Jewish history; God is often depicted as androgynous and no longer either demanding or judging (He just loves all the time); and religion has been changed from morally and theologically demanding to a therapeutic model. So religion, too, has become yet another place where boys encounter few men, and few masculine models (even in God, as noted, is no longer masculine).
8. Instead of the traditional American model of masculinity, which was a rare combination of masculine toughness and stoicism with doing good (e.g., Superman), boys are now taught to be preoccupied with their feelings and with (unearned) self-esteem. They are not even allowed to lose; all boys playing a sport are given trophies, not just winners.
9. Increasingly, marriage is regarded as optional. The most obvious expression of men assuming responsibility — marrying a woman and taking care of her and their children — is no longer a male ideal. Vast numbers of men quite openly admit to having problems with the C-word (commitment) and responsibility of being a family’s sole breadwinner.
When boys do not become men, women assume their roles. But they are not happy doing so. There are any number of reasons American women suffer from depression more than ever before and more than men. It is difficult to believe that one of those reasons is not the very emasculation of men that the movement working in their name helped to bring about. And so, a vicious cycle has commenced — men stop being men; women become man-like; men retreat even further from their manly role; and women get sadder.Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 2 so far )
This is sick and typical of feminists. They’re up in arms over ‘men at work’ signs because they’re sexist, but they don’t speak out against the Muslim father who strangled his daughter to death in an ‘honor killing’. Are you kidding me? Feminists hate conservatives so much that they assume ‘the enemy of my enemy is my friend’, therefore if conservatives are anti-Islamofacism, then they’ll be for it!! Disgusting!!! Why aren’t they speaking up for the Muslim women who are treated like garbage???
Feminists Truly Hate Women
Warner Todd Huston
On Sunday, July 13, in Jonesboro, Georgia, an immigrant Muslim father strangled his daughter to death in a so-called “honor killing” because she protested being forced by her family to marry a man she did not know. No feminist uttered a word about the murder of twenty-five-year-old Sandeela Kanwal. On the following Wednesday officials in the city government of Atlanta, Georgia bowed to the pressure from one feminist nut to stop posting “men at work” signs in the city because they are “sexist.”
The contrast is stark as well as revealing, if not entirely disgusting. It reveals an American feminism that is a hypocritical, unserious, sham that deserves nothing but derision. A movement that indulges in oblivious, frivolity while real pain surrounds them.
The western world is in the midst of a clash of cultures that is killing thousands of people every week. The west is seeing a religio-political system calling itself Islam perpetrating some of the most oppressive actions against women in modern history. Women are daily and by the millions beaten, raped, mutilated, and oppressed in uncountable ways by adherents of a so-called religion. This is not only happening in far away lands, either. Imigrants are importing these barbarous, uncivilized ways into the west and right into our midst.
Girls of Muslim heritage throughout the west are being forced into marriages against their will, sold into sexual slavery, their genitals are being mangled in a faux religious ceremony and they are being treated as second class citizens by their parents and relatives, immigrants of Muslim background.
And as these very real crimes against women occur what do the feminists of Atlanta, Georgia get all exercised about? The elimination of signs that say “men at work.”Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 2 so far )
Another excellent article by Dr. Mike Adams!! This is the result of our girls getting inundated with the feminist garbage on the college campuses.
Hannah and Her Blisters
By Mike S. Adams
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
Dear Concerned Grandparent:
I am so sorry to hear that your granddaughter has dropped out of school less than halfway through her course of study in English Literature at a public university supported by your tax dollars. I am especially sorry to hear that she has contracted herpes and that, just before Christmas, she spoke of ending her life.
Your granddaughter is like a lot of decent Christian girls who go to college with a solid Christian upbringing. But, then, after being exposed to the influence of radical feminism on campus they begin to “fall away.” In the case of Hannah it was certainly no accident. It was a result of the persistent intentional conduct of the administration.
Let me elaborate on the common theme behind all of the following incidents you described to me:
– Your granddaughter was told by her dormitory resident assistant to question the sexual moral code her parents used to “restrict her sexual freedom.”
– She was given condoms by an administrator on the way to her class in the psychology building where she saw signs saying “You’re never too drunk to put on a condom” and “Feeling spunky? Better wrap up his monkey.”
– She saw assistants from the women’s center putting condoms on a vibrator just in front of the school cafeteria.
– She was compelled to attend The Vagina Monologues by her English professor.
– She was told by her Sociology professor that marriage is an oppressive institution imposed upon women by a sexist patriarchy – all for the benefit of men.
In other words, she was told to sleep around (even when drunk), to supplement masturbation with “safe sex,” and, finally, to be proud of her vagina throughout a lifetime of having endless sex partners outside the parameters of marriage.
All of this was supposed to make her happy but, of course, all of it was a lie. That is because the common theme in everything she hears from feminists is that true happiness could only be achieved by focusing on her sexuality and her sex organs.
I was so upset by the story of Hannah that I spent an entire afternoon calling Women’s Resource Centers (WRCs) across America to see whether any of them were involved in activities that do not involve sex organs and sexual intercourse.
I only managed to call twelve WRCs across America in the few short hours I had to explore this issue. I focused on these four questions:
1. Do you hand out condoms to students encouraging them to engage in casual premarital sexual intercourse?
2. Do you sponsor The Vagina Monologues – a play encouraging women to focus upon and, indeed, be proud of their sex organs?
3. Do you sponsor any programs that deal with the worldwide exploitation of women for sexual purposes – for example, child sexual slavery and child prostitution in Southeast Asia?
4. Do you sponsor any programs that condemn the mistreatment of women in radical Islamic nations? Specifically, do you focus on the sexual exploitation of women in the name of Islam?
I don’t have to tell you the gist of what I found. You can probably guess. But I’ll share the results anyway:
——– 83% of the WRCs reported handing out condoms to female students encouraging them to engage in casual premarital sexual intercourse.
——– 100% reported sponsoring The Vagina Monologues – a play encouraging women to focus upon and, indeed, be proud of their sex organs.
——— 17% sponsored programs that deal with the worldwide exploitation of women for sexual purposes – for example, child sexual slavery and child prostitution in Southeast Asia.
——— 0% who claimed to sponsor programs that deal with the worldwide exploitation of women for sexual purposes – for example, child sexual slavery and child prostitution in Southeast Asia – were able to name a single program they sponsored that dealt with the issue.
——– 0% sponsored programs that condemn the mistreatment of women in radical Islamic nations. None focused on the sexual exploitation of women in the name of Islam.
The results of this small and unsophisticated survey would not change much if the sample size were increased tenfold to 120. One still would not be able to find much evidence that WRCs are interested in doing things for women who are truly suffering from inequality. Nor would one find many that disagree with the importance of enjoying sex and loving one’s vagina.
This all begins to make sense when you refer back to a recent column I wrote, which offered a new definition of feminism in the 21st Century. In the column, I defined feminism as a movement that seeks unlimited rights for women without corresponding responsibilities via the suppression of criticism of feminism.
Campus feminists seek the right to control their bodies under the mantra of “Sexual liberation.” They avoid responsibility under the mantra of “my body, my choice,” which seeks to suppress criticism, moreover input, on the issue of abortion coming from men or female critics of abortion.
Campus feminists seek the right to engage in vulgarity by sponsoring The Vagina Monologues. They avoid responsibility for spreading negative messages by enforcing speech codes, which suppress criticism of the play coming from opponents of feminism.
But, of course, feminism is failing on America’s campuses as Hannah’s story shows. The condoms kept her from getting pregnant. But they did not keep her from getting a broken heart and an STD. Now she’s having a tougher time feeling proud of her vagina. And her only hope is in the forgiveness offered by Christ, as opposed to the punishment promised by Allah.
It is a sad commentary that feminists are doing little to make women in other countries as well-off as women in America. But they are doing much to make college women as miserable as some women not fortunate enough to be born in America.